Love cum Arranged
I am at that age of my life where every aunty I meet has only one question to ask, " When are you getting married?". Ah! I wish I knew the answer to that question.
My mom, being the normal Indian mom, took my Kundali (Horoscope) to a Panditji, and he after counting his fingers, frowning and smirking a little, announced loud and clear, that mine will be a " Love cum arranged marriage" ( No pun intended, whatsoever!). My heart, even though it rarely gets carried away by such predictions, did a happy dance!
My parents are the chilled out kind. If I would tell them about the guy I want to marry, they wouldn't question my choice. Yes, they would ask all the necessary questions, but not question my choice. They know I am extremely picky and choosy about silly things that I buy and I wouldn't randomly end up with someone. Hence, the " Love cum arranged" tag didn't bother my mom much. All she was bothered about, was by when I'll get married. Apparently, the yog for my marriage has been running since the last two years, sigh!
After my initial happiness drained, the truth hit me hard in the face. If I am going to have a " Love cum arranged" marriage, where the hell is the GUY?!
I have always known, I will marry someone I know really well. I need the guy to understand me and for me to understand him and then take the next step. But, as life would have it, I am left with no guy whom I know well enough to be married to. It is like eating a chocolate cake, minus the chocolate!
All this marriage talk has gotten me so eager, that I need to know it now and right now, who the hell is the GUY?!
I have gotten into CID mode, where I am suspecting every good looking, smart, witty, intelligent, funny guy to be my potential husband. I am putting every smile, message, eye contact under the microscope. I am scrutinizing and investigating the mystery of my perfect man. I want the results out and soon!
I am having sleepless nights imagining my husband-to-be. I am thinking about how, where and when I will get to meet him. I just can't stop my heart from fluttering with a mere thought of this mysterious person. I can't believe that there is a guy coming my way, who for the rest of my life, will belong to me and me alone. Ah! Love!
Yes, the above paragraph makes me seem like a teenager, but no, I am not ashamed to tell the Universe I am open for love and all the beautiful things it brings along-with it. Love is a positive feeling and I am up for everything that is positive.
It is going to take such a lot of time, the getting to know each other phase, the flirting phase, the I-like-you phase and then the I-Love-You phase. It would be really helpful if he could come out of hiding real soon. What the hell is the GUY upto? My parents are not going to wait forever. They have told me, once there is a strong commitment from the guy, we can take our time to marry ( I know they are awesome!).
Ah! I know my Prince Charming has mounted his white horse. He is yet to start riding. But, he will get here, eventually and hopefully.
If the "Love cum arranged marriage" prediction doesn't come true. I will be an addition to those couple who say, "Ours is Arranged cum Love (pun intended) marriage".
My mom, being the normal Indian mom, took my Kundali (Horoscope) to a Panditji, and he after counting his fingers, frowning and smirking a little, announced loud and clear, that mine will be a " Love cum arranged marriage" ( No pun intended, whatsoever!). My heart, even though it rarely gets carried away by such predictions, did a happy dance!
My parents are the chilled out kind. If I would tell them about the guy I want to marry, they wouldn't question my choice. Yes, they would ask all the necessary questions, but not question my choice. They know I am extremely picky and choosy about silly things that I buy and I wouldn't randomly end up with someone. Hence, the " Love cum arranged" tag didn't bother my mom much. All she was bothered about, was by when I'll get married. Apparently, the yog for my marriage has been running since the last two years, sigh!
After my initial happiness drained, the truth hit me hard in the face. If I am going to have a " Love cum arranged" marriage, where the hell is the GUY?!
I have always known, I will marry someone I know really well. I need the guy to understand me and for me to understand him and then take the next step. But, as life would have it, I am left with no guy whom I know well enough to be married to. It is like eating a chocolate cake, minus the chocolate!
All this marriage talk has gotten me so eager, that I need to know it now and right now, who the hell is the GUY?!
I have gotten into CID mode, where I am suspecting every good looking, smart, witty, intelligent, funny guy to be my potential husband. I am putting every smile, message, eye contact under the microscope. I am scrutinizing and investigating the mystery of my perfect man. I want the results out and soon!
I am having sleepless nights imagining my husband-to-be. I am thinking about how, where and when I will get to meet him. I just can't stop my heart from fluttering with a mere thought of this mysterious person. I can't believe that there is a guy coming my way, who for the rest of my life, will belong to me and me alone. Ah! Love!
Yes, the above paragraph makes me seem like a teenager, but no, I am not ashamed to tell the Universe I am open for love and all the beautiful things it brings along-with it. Love is a positive feeling and I am up for everything that is positive.
It is going to take such a lot of time, the getting to know each other phase, the flirting phase, the I-like-you phase and then the I-Love-You phase. It would be really helpful if he could come out of hiding real soon. What the hell is the GUY upto? My parents are not going to wait forever. They have told me, once there is a strong commitment from the guy, we can take our time to marry ( I know they are awesome!).
Ah! I know my Prince Charming has mounted his white horse. He is yet to start riding. But, he will get here, eventually and hopefully.
If the "Love cum arranged marriage" prediction doesn't come true. I will be an addition to those couple who say, "Ours is Arranged cum Love (pun intended) marriage".
Either ways (LcA or AcL, if i may shorten them), i guess you will soon find someone since you are thinking about it every now and then. Hope you take an informed decision.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with the search!
Haha.. I need all the luck! Thanks so much Alok :)
DeleteCID Mode?!?!?! LOL :D:D:D
ReplyDeleteThis arranged vs love marriage debate is never gonna end... personally i am with love marriages only... can't think of marrying a complete stranger as a good idea...
Same here ..it's better falling into a known ditch than an unknown well! :P
Deletean completely understand the circumstances...Good luck with the venture :) Don't worry things will fall into place eventually :)
ReplyDeleteYes they will! Always nice to see your comments :)
DeleteCID Mode ROFL .. while reading those two para i was seriously laughing .. All the best :)
ReplyDeletenow the blog Title is fitting perfectly .. The SIDE I HIDE :P
Hahah Ankur! :)
DeleteNice hearing from you after so long! How are you? :)
i always shout it's just that you don't pay visit there anymore :P
Deletei'm good ..how have you been ?
Waiting for the big news now :p
ReplyDeleteHaha, me too! ;)
DeleteI'm so tempted to say stuck in traffic, your Prince is :P
ReplyDeleteYou know how the traffic in Bangalore is! I'm sure he is stuck in traffic, too! :D
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