Are you angry with me?

I realised in the past few days that, it is easiest to get angry with people you love the most. I have now started taking people's anger as a sign of endearment, rather than worry about it. Confused?

Scene- My brother and I fighting
My brother calls me, the worst sister in the world, when we fight. He says it is rather better to not have a sister, than have someone like me, while twisting my arm. I decide then and that minute, never to talk to him.
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An hour later, when both of us are hungry and we don't like what Mom has prepared for dinner, we gang up against her, forgetting all about our fight and the nasty things we called each other. We become the best siblings in the world.

The fight could last for a few days sometimes, but the end is always the same. We forget and forgive, even the harshest and the meanest comments. 

Scene- Mom and I fighting

When my brother and I gang up against what Mom has cooked, she has no escape. She starts grumbling under her breath about how she has to manage the whole house by herself and two idiotic kids, who never grow up and help her. I catch her grumbling and make a fuss about how I volunteered to help and she hadn't let me. The whole issue takes a new turn and the fight begins. She tells me, she will never, ever talk to me. 
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A few minutes later, I see her in the kitchen preparing what I like, with a grumpy face. She then forces me to eat and everything is back to normal. We forgive and forget.

Sometimes, the fights could be for much more important decisions or mistakes in life and still, we always forget and forgive.

I understand now, that the most honest way of showing how much someone means to you, is to be able to fight, call names, say nasty things and know that none of this has any meaning once you calm down. The fact that you can go back to the other person and apologize, knowing they will forgive you, is a true from of love.

Try fighting with a stranger; you would end up hurting someone or hurting yourself, for sure. While, the fights with your loved ones only add to memories, you laugh at or talk sarcastically about, at a later point in life.

If you can get angry with me and forgive me, I know, you love me.

P.S- I couldn't blog for a few days, now I am back. :) 

Comments

  1. so relatable "Har ghar ki kahaani ".. my and my sister used to do that .. but now after 4yrs of mess food i know i delicious mom food are and i never complain now :d

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    1. no wonder i end up fighting with everyone in this world .... i love all ....
      nice post to read

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    2. Haha Ankur.. I haven't stayed away from home, I take things for granted. :P

      Pkdekha-Haha.. I am glad my post made you think from this perspective.:P

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  2. Its awesome to have you backkk :D yeah well you wont vent out on random strangers cuz wont understand right? :)

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  3. And I am soooo glad that you are back!! :)

    Only in some cases anger means love. You can get angry at a random stranger for a heinous act right? Its scary though.

    I loved those cute examples you mentioned above. May you be blessed with more and more love!

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    1. I agree, Soumya. I am talking about being angry with your loved ones, knowing they will forgive and forget. :)

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  4. absolutely!! that's what makes families unique pieces!! and yea that's what differentiates the family and the world outside!

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    1. Right? Thanks for reading, little princess. :)

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  5. i think fights in a relation only makes the bond stronger bcz as long as you can communicate freely in that relation, nothing can go wrong and letting go of frustration by fighting is really important...
    i love my dad a lot and i fight the most with him only, next comes my mom... but at the end of the day, we give each other good night kisses :)

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    1. Awww..the 'making up' part is the beauty of fighting with loved ones. :)

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  6. I could totally relate to this post as this happens with me and my brother every time . Loved the simplicity in it .....Good to see you back again Pooja :)

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  7. So very true, I was thinking the same. Only people I get angry with are my mom, brother and husband.

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    1. I am glad you could relate. Thanks for reading, Saru.:)

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  8. That is so true! I end up fighting all the time with my mom and sister...
    and we are back to normal again

    love
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    1. What would life be minus those fights? :)
      Thanks for reading, Megha! :)

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  9. Fighting with our near and dear ones only increases the love between us ... very well written :-)

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    1. I have to agree with you! :) Thanks Amrit! :)

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  10. One can fight with a loved one and then patch up.This is life sweet and a bit sour too.

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  11. I can so relate to those examples.
    These days, with vacations, me and my brothers have got nothing dear to do than fight. But the day ends with us laughing together :D
    And yes, you read right..*brother's'*

    Nice post!
    New here :)

    -Srishti

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    1. Haha! :D I can't manage with one brother, I dunno how you handle more than one :P

      Hoping to see you more often, thanks for reading. :)

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    1. Thanks a lot Anmol. That is so generous of you . :)

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  13. I guess, we put up with mood swings, anger, hurtful comments only from people we truly love. But it's sad, we never shy of showing our worst side to people we care about the most and reserve our best side for others who don't matter much to us.

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    1. I totally agree with you. We are weird that way. :)

      Thanks for reading Ma'am. It's a pleasure to have you here. :')

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  14. Hope we don't get sooo angery that we totally lose our loved ones. Happens in a fit of rage when our loved one might get hurt or worse, get killed...
    May there be no anger, & in case there is, may what you have mentioned in your post happen! Forgive & forget & only love :)

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    1. That is extreme case of anger, Anita. I think with our loved ones, we might lose them once they lose their patience with us.
      Thanks a lot for reading. :)

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  15. It happens with me too.. I mostly get angry with the people I love the most. But yes, forgiving and forgetting is the key.

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    1. Thanks for connecting to the post, Jyotsna. :)

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  16. This is like my story. With my brother and mother both! I am glad you came to that conclusion.

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    1. Haha! Looks like a story of everybody's house. :)

      Thanks for reading. :)

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  17. My brother and I fight like anything!! We fight all day longggg
    Ur post is sooo relatable. Nice job done

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